How Relatives Broke Wilbroda’s Marriage, Leaving Her a Lonely Alcoholic

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Regrets are like sunsets, they come later.

For eons, she amused us with her jocularity and filled our screens with her motherly built (before she later shed the extra pounds). We not only guffawed at her punch lines but we also noticed her- not just for her role. We saw how her nose stood defiantly on her face as her most salient facial feature, but not commandeering enough to hide the warmth in her gaze, or her disarming smile.

She got hundreds of thousands of her fans glued to the screens because her character was starkly relatable. To the men, she reminded them of the ever-nagging wives back at home. To the young, she was akin to their inquisitive and protective yet in some cases naïve but no doubt loving mothers.

To the women, she was them. In more ways than one can care to innumerate.

Jacqueline Nyaminde known by her craft name as Wilbroda is like table salt to most Kenyan households- known. But as she played Papa Shirandula’s wife, her own marriage was shattering into pieces too tiny to piece back together.

Speaking to Cheptoek Boyo, Wilbroda admitted that while a hybrid of issues culminated in the ultimate fall of her union, she has her share of the blame.

“I also contributed to the breakup. I think by the time one thing that contributed to our breakup was that I was with my relatives all the time. My sisters were always at my house, I didn’t see a big deal with it until later on after we broke up, he mentioned it to his friend,” she said.

Adding that,

“I didn’t see that. Looking at it now I am like, I contributed to their coming. I went overboard. I enjoyed their company but it cost me.”

According to her, everything seemed okay until it got to a point where she felt like her life was in danger because they always had heated arguments.

“I acted immediately and started planning myself.”

Wilbroda and her baby daddy are now co-parenting and she said it is not easy.

Her marriage had ended, but money was coming. So to hide her pain and to act like she was the mama yao, she indulged friends and alcohol

“That time I was at the peak of my career and getting good money. I had a crew that would only talk positively about me. We would sit and drink and a lot of the time I would be the one footing the bills.”

Wilbroda said she would drink on a daily basis until one day when she decided to change her ways.

“I sat down and told myself, this is not the kind of life I want my son to grow into. I told myself I need to take a break from this kind of drinking and I had to stop.”

For two years, Wilbroda did not drink alcohol. At that period, she learned who her true friends were.

“I took a two-year break. I did not touch alcohol. The friends disappeared. I gained true friends and I think now I am a social drinker. I take wine and you will never find me drinking every day. That is what comes with maturity. Unlike before, I can say no to a drink.”

Will she throw her wrapper back into the courtship ring?

 “The moment you become a mother, if this guy is not right for you, he is not right for your child.

In every decision that you make, your child plays such a big role. When you meet someone and you sit down with them and see how he talks, behaves, drinks… it is those very little things that you are like, you know what? I will wait.”

Adding, “Actually, right now, I’m not even in a hurry, I tell myself a time will come when I will be ready because I’m good as I am. I’m really enjoying my life right now. There is no one calling you and asking, ‘Uko?’ Umefika? Wewe ndio bwana kwa nyumba yako.”